To go from dating to relationship
But I don’t want to be doing the casual dating thing six months from now—I want a committed relationship with him. My mom says don’t bring it up and just let him take things at his own pace.
My girlfriends say I need to tell him right now that I want the title, or I’m leaving.
Second, good for you not taking the advice you’ve already received.
I mean nothing against your mother or your girlfriends, but their recommendations aren’t the same as I would make. Second, know that you are taking a risk by initiating “the talk.” A man who is relationship ready will have no problems talking about it, but a boy will run. You’ll want to be passionately detached here—say what you need to say, and then detach from any particular outcome.
However, after he’s had a little while to process what’s going on, his reaction will speak volumes about his character.
Does he give you a reply or does he ignore what you said, as if he wishes it never happened?
(They’re all single or divorced, so I don’t know if their advice is any good.) There has to be a better way than either of those, and I’ve already tried telling a previous guy I dated what I wanted, and he walked away. Dear Stacie, Right now, you’re in a pretend relationship… But as you correctly said, he hasn’t made anything official, so you know you’re not his girlfriend. First, I want to congratulate you on your patience and easygoing way.
This is the one thing that happens at some point early on in almost every relationship. And then, suddenly, without warning, he disappears into thin air.Does he tell you that he’s not sure what he wants, or does he tell you he’s ready to take things to the next level? He may be all in, which is great, or he may not be ready yet.That’s when you’ll need to decide whether you wish to continue seeing him and giving him a little more time. DON’T say anything that resembles “We need to talk.” That puts men on the defensive right away. “You know, I’ve had a great time getting to know you over the last six months, and I really enjoy being with you.Just bring it up casually when you know he’s listening and receptive. I’m looking for a committed relationship and I just want to know where you’re at.We’ve been together for about six months (just dating), and I want more. We do everything a boyfriend and girlfriend do—have sex, spend a lot of time together, and we even have keys to each other’s houses.Yet he’s never made anything official, so I know he’s not my boyfriend.If you can't handle this when it happens then you won't be able to move from dating to a relationship. You're embarking on a new and promising relationship with a fabulous man. When this happens, you probably get angry or scared. In a desperate search for an explanation, you text and call him or leave messages for him. You're worried sick in case something bad has happened. When you finally get hold of him you demand to know why he has done this to you.Find out how you can be prepared for this event during dating by reading this right now. You just know that this time it's going to go somewhere. It seemed so promising and you don't understand what has gone wrong. Occasionally your dating may survive this event and it may turn into a relationship but usually it means the end of another promising adventure.I tell women not to take advice from anyone who’s not already in a good relationship. First, realize that he may assume you’re his girlfriend now. Third, make sure he knows there is a win in this for him.You win by getting a committed relationship, but what does he get?