From dating to boyfriend girlfriend
Last Friday I was delighted to be a return guest on the Wisconsin Public Radio Show "At Issue with Ben Merens" (audio available here).
Our ostensible topic was "words of the summer" (including skadoosh, of course!
That is - living in NY I encounter this frequently with other singles - when you have a very casual sexual relationship with someone where 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' would be making it more serious than it need be but 'lover' sounds dated and falls short of describing the whole relationship.
I've heard 'friend with benefits' but don't think that covers it either. Inti-mate (long-a) does work on multiple levels, but it actually falls short because of its utter cleverness.
Does he become a POSSLQ for census purposes when I can no longer claim him as son on my taxes and he hasn't left the nest?
Robert's idea is to take the adjective intimate and pronounce the final syllable as mate."People feel a real need for a term that refers to one's romantic partner that does not sound childish," he told USA Today. I always thought that "intimate," as a noun, referred to a person of close personal relationship.Flipping the word around to pronounce it as the verb form confuses the issue.Partner is just fine so far as I'm concerned as I don't just see it as a business arrangment.The word "partner" when applied to a relationship means, to me, a relationship where both parties have equal responsibilities and rights, are working together towards mutual goals, who support each other in times of trouble and in achieving mutual and individual goals and who are there to recognise and congratulate personal and shared achievements, among other things.(That's actually how the verb form of intimate, meaning "give to understand; imply as a possibility" is pronounced, but no matter.) I thought this was a clever suggestion, putting a new spin on old words, but I'm not holding my breath for inti-mate to displace boyfriend and girlfriend any time soon.Robert is hardly alone in his feeling that boyfriend and girlfriend are inappropriate terms to refer to grown adults in committed relationships.Ask out your crush, have the perfect first date, and send a flirty text or two with the 600 articles in our Dating category!Experts will help you be confident around a crush, become a great partner, and steer clear of jealousy and the friend zone.Maybe it's a different country/different meaning thing but if someone told me their relationship was boyfriend/girlfriend I would assume that they WEREN'T in a committed relationship or living together but in a romantic relationship that is getting serious but not yet engaged to be married or planning to live together.Even so, they are still not suitable words for adults in romantic relationship of any sort.